The Lose Control Podcast

Episode 17 "I don't know how to NOT move forward" Special guest: Julie Cole

Julie’s Journey to Authenticity

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Julie Cole sat in the dimly lit room, her fingers tracing the edges of her sobriety coin. Twenty-six years. It felt like a lifetime and a heartbeat all at once. The room was filled with others—strangers who had become confidantes, their stories woven together like a patchwork quilt of resilience.

“If you live sober long enough,” Julie thought, “you’ll face joys and heartbreaks that cut to the core.” She knew this truth intimately. The laughter of newfound friends, the tears shed for lost loved ones—it was all part of the tapestry of recovery.

Julie’s journey hadn’t been pretty. It had been raw, messy, and achingly real. She’d stumbled, fallen, and risen again. Her transparency was her strength, her authenticity a beacon for those still finding their way.

As the owner of Julie Cole Counseling, Coaching & Consulting, LLC, Julie took a holistic approach to helping others. She understood that healing wasn’t just about abstinence; it was about rebuilding shattered lives. Her clients weren’t statistics; they were souls seeking redemption.

The #loveher Podcast was her passion project—a space where authenticity reigned. Julie’s soothing voice carried stories of triumph and struggle, weaving hope into the airwaves. Listeners tuned in, nodding along as she shared her own battles—the messy divorce, the late-night cravings, the quiet victories.

Twenty-five years in social work and substance use disorder counseling had etched lines of compassion on Julie’s face. She’d held trembling hands, wiped tears, and celebrated small victories. Her heart swelled when a client found their voice or a lost soul discovered purpose.

Public speaking was both exhilarating and nerve-wracking. Julie stood before crowds, her vulnerability a superpower. She spoke of resilience, of the beauty in brokenness. Her certifications—Licensed Master Social Worker, Certified Peer Support Specialist, Certified Personal Trainer, Certified Health Coach, and Certified Nutrition Coach—were mere labels. What mattered was the fire within her—the unwavering belief that everyone deserved a second chance.

At home, Julie juggled motherhood with grace. Two children, a spoiled dog, a guinea pig, two rats, and two fish—they were her heart. She taught them empathy, resilience, and the value of authenticity. They laughed together, huddled under blankets during thunderstorms, and whispered secrets late at night.

And then there were her escapes—the gym, where sweat washed away worries; camping trips, where nature whispered ancient truths; hikes that led to mountaintop revelations; and travels that expanded her soul.

Julie Cole—the woman who wore her scars proudly, who turned vulnerability into strength. Her journey wasn’t linear, but it was authentic. And as she sat in that room, surrounded by fellow travelers, she knew she was exactly where she needed to be.

Episode 16 "Before I knew it." Special guest: Jodi Friend

Jodi’s Journey: From Darkness to Hope

Jodi’s path through addiction, recovery, and the pain of loss has been an arduous one. The weight of shame and guilt rests heavily on her shoulders, yet she remains resolute in her quest for strength and sobriety. Despite enduring immense heartache, Jodi channels her experiences into helping others while safeguarding her own well-being.

Together with her husband and son, Jodi’s commitment to staying clean reflects the unbreakable bonds of family love and resilience. Their shared journey is a testament to their unwavering faith and passion for grace. Facing adversity at its deepest levels, Jodi confronts her emotions head-on, drawing strength from every available source.

In her 3.5-year clean journey, Jodi encountered three relapses in December and January. The turning point? The guilt stemming from her son’s overdose on December 31, 2024. Jodi believes her purpose extends beyond mere survival—it may even be divinely ordained.

Her pain resonates universally: countless people in active addiction won’t survive, leaving shattered families behind. Jodi would sacrifice herself to spare a stranger from such anguish.

Jodi’s transformation is remarkable. Once ensnared by addiction, she now embraces faith, supporting others seeking change. Yet, she’s learned that self-care matters too. Her son’s recovery from fentanyl and heroin addiction serves as a poignant reminder of the delicate balance between helping others and preserving one’s own well-being. Jodi’s inner honesty fuels her commitment to personal growth. Her spirit stands as a humbling testament: no matter the trials, with divine grace, we can prevail.

 

Episode 14 " Then I was introduced to sub levels 1,2&3" Special guest Russell Marchese

Russell Marchese’s story is indeed a profound narrative of hope, resilience, and the enduring power of faith and love. It’s a story that resonates with many who have faced similar battles, and it serves as a beacon of light for those still navigating the path of recovery.

The journey of self-discovery and the embrace of one’s spirituality can be transformative. It’s a process that often begins with the challenging acknowledgment of our own role in our struggles, leading to a deeper understanding and acceptance of ourselves. Russ’s experience underscores the importance of this self-awareness and the strength that comes from a connection with a higher power. Russ says,” Once I put GOD 1^st, you 2^nd, I began to love the Man in the Mirror.”

Every day of sobriety is a milestone, a testament to the commitment to a life reclaimed. The clarity and freedom that come with sobriety are indeed akin to a rebirth, offering new perspectives and possibilities.

Russ’s story, like so many others, is a reminder that while the road to recovery may be long and fraught with challenges, it is also paved with moments of triumph and the potential for a renewed sense of purpose. It’s a journey that not only changes the individual but also has the power to inspire and impact the lives of others.

May Russ’s story continue to inspire and offer solace to those who are on their own journey towards healing and self-discovery. 

Thank you Russ for sharing such an inspiring account of transformation and hope. I love you and will be eternally grateful.

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear”

 

Episode 15 "In my pain, I really found my purpose" Special guest Rachel Jackson

Rachel’s profound journey to freedom is indeed a testament to the human spirit’s resilience and the transformative power of recovery. Born into a challenging environment, she faced her struggles head-on. Rachel’s journey from dealing with an eating disorder and substance abuse to becoming a pillar of support and inspiration is nothing short of remarkable. By turning her life around and dedicating herself to helping others, Rachel exemplifies the strength that can emerge from adversity.

Her dedication to mindfulness, community, and physical wellness has not only been a cornerstone of her own recovery but also a source of strength for those around her. As Rachel continues to support others and spread her message of recovery, she embodies the very essence of service. Her efforts are indeed making a significant impact, and her story will undoubtedly continue to guide and inspire many on their paths to healing and well-being.

Rachel’s words, “Together we will continue to embrace the pillars of peaceful balance through seeking resources to support your journey, -I’m here to help,” reflect a powerful commitment to service and a reminder that no one is alone in their struggles. It’s a call to action for communities to come together, share resources, and uplift each other in the pursuit of well-being.

“Rachel, your journey is a testament to the power of hope and the strength of the human spirit” – Matty I

 

Episode 13 - 3 Pillars to a Peaceful Balance

 

3 Pillars to a Peaceful Balance:

1. Mindfulness / Meditation:

• Practicing mindfulness and meditation can help you cultivate awareness of the present moment, reduce stress, and enhance overall well-being. Consider incorporating mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, body scans, or guided meditation into your daily routine.

Community / Relationship:

• Building and maintaining meaningful connections with others is essential for emotional health. Engage with your community, whether through social activities, volunteering, or participating in group events. Supportive relationships provide a sense of belonging and contribute to a peaceful balance.

Physical Wellness and Diet:

• Prioritize your physical health by adopting a balanced diet and regular exercise. Proper nutrition fuels your body and mind, while physical activity promotes vitality and reduces tension. Remember to stay hydrated and get adequate rest to maintain overall well-being.

 

Episode 12 "A Journey of Resilience & Purpose" Special Guest: Gerry Coleman

JOURNEY OF RESILIENCE AND PURPOSE

From the rolling hills of Pennsylvania to the warm embrace of the South, Gerry’s life’s journey has been anything but ordinary. At the tender age of 10, his family’s move to Irmo introduced him to a world where Gerry’s biracial heritage was as rare as it was misunderstood. The challenges were manifold: financial constraints that led to ridicule and a sense of isolation in a place where he stood out for all the wrong reasons. Yet, amidst these trials, his parents’ unwavering dedication to providing a loving home and education taught Gerry the value of hard work and perseverance.

As Gerry navigated through college, his ambitions crystallized around a singular goal: to achieve financial success and escape the shadows of Gerry’s childhood hardships. Gerry’s career as a Strategic Account Manager in the Cardiovascular Division of a major medical device company became a testament to his drive and determination. But with success came an unexpected adversary—alcohol. What began as a celebratory ritual slowly morphed into a struggle that threatened to undermine everything Gerry had worked for.

March 2007 marked a pivotal turning point. Embracing sobriety, Gerry found solace and strength within The Irmo Group, which has since become his steadfast home group. Gerry’s commitment to recovery also led him to serve as the Vice Chair of the Board of Directors at The Courage Center, where Gerry could extend a helping hand to others embarking on their own paths to healing.

The past five years have been a period of profound introspection and growth. The end of an 18-year marriage, devoid of the joys of parenthood, prompted Gerry to look beyond the superficial markers of success. No longer confined by the titles and accolades of Gerry’s profession. Gerry says,” I am  on a quest to discover my true purpose—a purpose that transcends the material and seeks to make a meaningful impact on the world around me.”

 

Episode 10 "Even when the odds are insurmountable" -Special guest William McCauley

William A. McCauley, a Certified Peer-Support Specialist affiliated with The Courage Center, has not only embraced this title but also woven it into the very fabric of his identity. His journey is one of resilience, transformation, and unwavering commitment to recovery.

For over 25 years, William grappled with the relentless grip of addiction. The last decade was particularly harrowing, marked by IV Meth and Fentanyl use. His existence revolved around the pursuit of substances, leaving behind a trail of broken connections and a fractured family. By the time he stumbled upon the path to recovery, he stood on the precipice of homelessness, isolated and desperate.

The turning point arrived during a moment of sheer vulnerability. After surviving 14 overdoses, William found himself in the throes of withdrawal, haunted by the certainty that the next dose could be fatal. Fear and craving waged war within him, creating a paradoxical panic. That fateful night, he screamed his defiance to the universe, refusing to succumb to addiction’s grip. In the quiet aftermath, a newfound resolve settled over him—a resolve that would alter the course of his life.

Treatment became his lifeline. Armed with knowledge from various treatment centers, he drew from the well of 12-step literature and embarked on a journey of self-reinvention. But William’s path was not rigid; he blended multiple approaches, creating a personalized roadmap to recovery. At its core lay a commitment to service, a foundation that sustained him through the darkest days.

Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT), specifically Suboxone, played a pivotal role. It provided stability, easing the physical and emotional turmoil. And then, on February 1, 2021, William realized a long-held dream—he stepped into a career as an addiction professional. His house, his car, and his vibrant recovery community bear witness to the transformation. Today, life is not merely good; it’s great.

William’s story is one of redemption, resilience, and the unwavering belief that change is possible—even when the odds seem insurmountable. His journey serves as a beacon of hope for others navigating the treacherous waters of addiction.

 

Episode 9 "I no longer carry the Iron Cross of shame" - Special Guest Matty I

Matthew’s Journey: From Darkness to Light

Matthew’s life was a tempest, a storm that threatened to drown him. As a child, anger clung to him like a shadow, and he struggled to find his place in a world that felt alien. But the universe had more trials in store for him.

At the tender age of six, Matthew lost his closest companion—the brother who shared secrets, laughter, and dreams. The void left behind was vast, an abyss that threatened to swallow him whole.

Yet fate wasn’t done with Matthew. At eight, he faced a horror no child should endure: molestation by a trusted family priest. Innocence shattered, trust fractured, he retreated into darkness.

Desperation drove him to seek solace in the forbidden embrace of alcohol and drugs. By twelve, he was already ensnared in their grip. The path he chose led him through four tumultuous decades—a journey marked by shattered dreams, fractured relationships, and the relentless pursuit of oblivion.

But within the chaos, a glimmer of hope emerged. Matthew discovered the 12 principles of a 12-step program—a lifeline thrown to a drowning soul. With unwavering determination, he clung to those principles, inching toward recovery.

Today, Matthew stands on solid ground. His life, once a tempest, now flows with purpose. He extends a hand to other recovering souls, sharing his battle scars and victories. In local detox centers, he weaves hope into the hearts of those still lost at sea.

Matthew wears many hats: a loving husband, a devoted father, a dutiful son, and a steadfast brother. His journey from darkness to light is a testament to resilience, redemption, and the power of community.

May his story inspire others—a beacon in the night, guiding them toward their own path of healing. 🌟